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What can you do about anger and aggression in dementia?
Anxiety in people with dementia can often lead to agitation, which can lead to anger, aggression, and situations that can be dangerous for caregivers.
It’s easier to prevent anger and aggression in dementia than to defuse it once it has started. Using observation or behavior logs to identify patterns of behavior can help you figure out what’s causing it and develop strategies to try to prevent it and keep yourself safe.
Common causes of anger or aggression in dementia
- Most often anger and aggression in dementia occur during personal care such as bathing, going to the toilet, or dressing. Frequently the person misunderstands the situation. She may feel threatened by someone trying to remove her clothes or touch her private areas, or feel humiliated, causing her to lash out.
- Feelings of frustration, loss of control and fear can lead to angry responses. People who had tempers earlier in life may have more trouble controlling their tempers now. When they feel threatened or that their privacy is invaded or when they are having trouble doing a task, they may be quick to anger.
- Feeling that one is being treated like a child, or that control is being taken away, can lead to anger. Most of us like to be in control of our own lives but dementia gradually takes that control away. Even though the disease is causing the problem, the anger is usually directed at the family member of caregiver.
- Being told “no.”
- A tense or angry environment is likely to prompt similar responses in people with dementia. Despite dementia, people are often sensitive to the “emotional environment” at home or in a care setting and will quickly pick up on other people’s tension or anxiety.
- Sensory overload—too much clutter, too many people talking, too much loud television or radio, intense television shows—can overwhelm or frighten people and lead from anxiety and agitation to acting out aggressively.
- Poor communication by a caregiver can lead to angry responses.
- A fairly sudden change in behavior may have a physical cause. A urinary tract infection can trigger bizarre behavior or delirium. Arrange a medical evaluation to screen for infections, medical illnesses, medication changes or side effects that could be contributing to the problem.
Strategies to try for anger or aggression in dementia
- Think about how to give your relative as much control as possible over decisions and situations that make her angry.
- Try not to say no. Think of other ways to phrase things.
- Don’t argue. You won’t win and this frequently leads to anger.
- Do you sound patronizing or condescending? People with dementia are very quick to pick up on tone of voice and feel demeaned by it.
- Try to figure out the feeling behind the behavior. Responding to the feeling is often one of the most helpful things you can do. “Molly, you sound so frustrated. I am sorry you are having such a hard time with this.” While you are not solving the problem, Molly knows you are listening to her. “Dad, you seem upset. Let’s sit here together for a few minutes. I will be here to help you. You are not alone.”
- During personal care and other tasks, explain step by step what you are doing. “Dad, I’m going to help you take your pants off now.”
- Create and maintain a calm, consistent environment.
Staying safe when your relative is angry or aggressive
- Call for help if you feel the situation is really out of control or you feel threatened. This might be a neighbor or family member. Call 911 if you feel you are in danger.
- Stay calm. Don’t raise your voice.
- Don’t argue.
- Back off. Leave the room if need be. If you feel threatened, leave the house and go to a neighbor’s.
- Don’t get trapped. Keep yourself between your relative and the door so you can escape if you need to. If this is a frequent problem, talk with your relative’s doctor or consider whether it might be time to think about residential care.
Authors of Coping with Behavior Change in Dementia and Moving a Relative with Memory Loss